My mother-in-law called me late last night telling me that she suddenly forgot that she had friends coming into town the same weekend I was meant to visit. I said that’s fine…but I keep thinking to myself you do not need to make excuses to not see me. Just like your son you can’t even tell the truth. After that she started questioning me as to the message I left my husband. I did decide to call him to offer my love and support during this tough time. Apparently he called her asking her what she was telling me…she told him that I know that he is not where he is supposed to be and of course he got upset with her. Obvious guilt taking over all his reasoning. He is in the same city where he met the female “friend”…”We’re just friends, she has a fiancee”…”but we have kissed”

Mother-in-law wanted to know if I said anything about his location and I said no…you told him. I got more and more upset while talking to her…My husband didn’t call me to ask who/what I’ve been talking to/about…No, he sends his little army of “friends” to inquire into my goings on. Well, I sent him a text…I probably shouldn’t have but whatever…he said that he wasn’t in the mood to talk to anyone because he is dealing with so much more than my being upset or hurt…Yeah, like your female “friend”?

I decided it was time to tell his mother just what kind of a son she has…she kept telling me that I needed proof before I started accusing him of infidelity. Oh, I gave it to her—-

I just can’t believe that my husband is not even helping his step-mother with the funeral arrangements for his dad. He continued to stay in sin city, I’m assuming with his lover, than go to be with his step mom. Husband’s mom thinks that she is the one who made him stay…I told her that she doesn’t have that much influence over her son…He has had this weekend planned for a while because he even made arrangements for someone to sub his gym classes…WHATEVER…

Last night through text I told him that I loved him and was there for him should he need me to help, he said he needs to take care of him and I need to take care of me.

Don’t worry honey I am so taking care of myself. But let’s be honest you are not doing a very good job of taking care of you…neglecting work, commitments, family, hobbies…all you seem to be thinking about is you and your little “friend”——

Wake up, Husband! Your vicious cycle will continue to follow you through your life…you won’t make any lasting friendships, you won’t find love (because you have no idea what this word means), you will keep running from the guilt that is in your heart and from the lies you continually tell.